Lesbian relationships in a heterosexual world

Abstract

This thesis explores the different ways in which lesbians attempt to reconcile their sexual identity with the expectations of the wider heterosexual society. It looks specifically at lesbian relationships and examines the extent to which they are influenced by relationships with family, friends and colleagues. Lesbians and lesbian relationships are relatively invisible in the wider society and as a result lesbians often base their relationships on the heterosexual model. However, some lesbians express dissatisfaction with this model as it does not allow room for alternative relationships types. This thesis explores how heterosexual relationships influence the creation and definition of lesbian relationships, and also to what extent they affect lesbians' participation in the wider community. Furthermore, it challenges lesbians to consider creating and defining their own relationships. Using qualitative research methods, nine women were interviewed about their ideas and experiences of lesbian relationships and lesbian identity. Heterosexual marriage was used by many as a point of comparison, however many felt unhappy with heterosexual marriage being used as a yardstick with which to measure lesbian relationships.